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Submitted by
Name: Michael
Subject: My opinion on your profile
Name: Michael
Subject: My opinion on your profile
Comments:
I'm going to help you out buddy.. STOP BEING SO OVER DEMANDING, yes not demanding, over demanding... You have all these qualities that you say your looking for, and all these traits that you say you don't want your spouse to have, and yet you want to find true love.. For one thing , that intimidates woman right off the bat. You already have all these high standards, who knows what other demands you may have. As for the women who may fit that profile, they don't want some guy who only likes them for their traits or wether or not they want kids.. They want someone who just genuinely loves them, and usually true love can't be explained by compatible personality's.. And lastly you have quite a few unique characteristics yourself so maybe you should be more open minded/ understanding. That's the best way to approach any relationship
I'm going to help you out buddy.. STOP BEING SO OVER DEMANDING, yes not demanding, over demanding... You have all these qualities that you say your looking for, and all these traits that you say you don't want your spouse to have, and yet you want to find true love.. For one thing , that intimidates woman right off the bat. You already have all these high standards, who knows what other demands you may have. As for the women who may fit that profile, they don't want some guy who only likes them for their traits or wether or not they want kids.. They want someone who just genuinely loves them, and usually true love can't be explained by compatible personality's.. And lastly you have quite a few unique characteristics yourself so maybe you should be more open minded/ understanding. That's the best way to approach any relationship
Added: May 1, 2014
Submitted by
Name: Former User
Subject: Reason for Cancelling
Name: Former User
Subject: Reason for Cancelling
Comments:
Reason for cancelling: I love this site! I'm only cancelling, because I'm in a serious relationship, and I don't want the temptation to cheat. If things don't work out, I'll sign up again.
Reason for cancelling: I love this site! I'm only cancelling, because I'm in a serious relationship, and I don't want the temptation to cheat. If things don't work out, I'll sign up again.
Added: May 1, 2014
Submitted by
Name: JW
Subject: Reason for cancelling...
Name: JW
Subject: Reason for cancelling...
Comments:
Reason for cancelling: No, I don't give a shit about how many members are here. I'm canceling my membership because I absolutely will not upload a photo. You may see that as bullshit, which I don't really fucking care. It appears you think uploading a photo somehow "proves" I'm "real" - whatever the fuck that means but, in actuality, anyone can upload any photo and say it's them. I considered it but then thought eh, fuck it. I don't play games either, which is why I didn't post a fake photo.
Being a former criminal attorney I will not be so idiotic as to put my photo online. Any fucking where online! Security concerns, obviously. If I decide a woman is worth my time, ONLY then would I send HER a photo. Why the hell would I post one for just any dimwit to see? Also, I figure if they can't find interest in me without a photo, they're shallow bitches anyway. Most women only give a fuck about how you look. I don't want a chick deciding to talk to me because she liked my photo. In spite of the obsession with looks that irritates me to no end, I will never, ever put a photo of myself online for security reasons. And, no, I'm not going to ask for an exception, either.
I do find such a trifling issue that prevents me from joining the site to be really unfortunate because I really do intensely hate kids. I divorced my now ex-wife because she suddenly wanted kids!
Anyway, if you actually read this note, thanks for actually taking the time to read comments. If you read this and thought: Aw, fuck you, asshole. Well, fuck you right back!!
JW
Reason for cancelling: No, I don't give a shit about how many members are here. I'm canceling my membership because I absolutely will not upload a photo. You may see that as bullshit, which I don't really fucking care. It appears you think uploading a photo somehow "proves" I'm "real" - whatever the fuck that means but, in actuality, anyone can upload any photo and say it's them. I considered it but then thought eh, fuck it. I don't play games either, which is why I didn't post a fake photo.
Being a former criminal attorney I will not be so idiotic as to put my photo online. Any fucking where online! Security concerns, obviously. If I decide a woman is worth my time, ONLY then would I send HER a photo. Why the hell would I post one for just any dimwit to see? Also, I figure if they can't find interest in me without a photo, they're shallow bitches anyway. Most women only give a fuck about how you look. I don't want a chick deciding to talk to me because she liked my photo. In spite of the obsession with looks that irritates me to no end, I will never, ever put a photo of myself online for security reasons. And, no, I'm not going to ask for an exception, either.
I do find such a trifling issue that prevents me from joining the site to be really unfortunate because I really do intensely hate kids. I divorced my now ex-wife because she suddenly wanted kids!
Anyway, if you actually read this note, thanks for actually taking the time to read comments. If you read this and thought: Aw, fuck you, asshole. Well, fuck you right back!!
JW
Added: April 30, 2014
Comments:
First, I find the attitude regarding the inevitability of sex in any relationship as refreshingly unpretentious.
(kudos)
Secondly, as a 50-something male, I am seeking an age gap relationship with a lady in her 40s and I am encouraged by the number of women in this age group who are viewing my profile. I do relaise that finding the right person is a process and not a whistle stop so I am biding my time and constantly adjusting my profile.
Lastly, as a widower and veteran of a successful long distance relationship, I did make the move to be with my first wife. This time around, I'm looking for a woman to move to be with me. While I'm confident this will happen, it is my experience that LD relationships/relocation can be something of a hard sell to a woman with a professional career.
Is it possible to promote this site more aggressively to
the non-college educated women who embrace this lifestyle? I am aware of a number of women desiring no kids on other dating sites who should be posting here.
IdoNOTwantKids reply: As for your question, "Is it possible to promote this site more aggressively to the non-college educated women who embrace this lifestyle?" the simple answer is:
THIS SITE IS 100% FREE. THERE IS "NO" ADVERTISING BUDGET AVAILABLE. THIS SITE ACTUALLY COSTS ME MONEY TO RUN. However, because I simply could NOT find anyplace to find single people on the planet who do NOT have or want kids, I decided to create www.IdoNOTwantKids.com myself -- which is particularly odd since computers are only a hobby for me. Therefore, to answer your question, PLEASE DO SPREAD THE WORD ABOUT www.IdoNOTwantKids.com and promote the site to ANYBODY & EVERYBODY you want... That is the only way available to promote the site (i.e. word of mouth).
First, I find the attitude regarding the inevitability of sex in any relationship as refreshingly unpretentious.
(kudos)
Secondly, as a 50-something male, I am seeking an age gap relationship with a lady in her 40s and I am encouraged by the number of women in this age group who are viewing my profile. I do relaise that finding the right person is a process and not a whistle stop so I am biding my time and constantly adjusting my profile.
Lastly, as a widower and veteran of a successful long distance relationship, I did make the move to be with my first wife. This time around, I'm looking for a woman to move to be with me. While I'm confident this will happen, it is my experience that LD relationships/relocation can be something of a hard sell to a woman with a professional career.
Is it possible to promote this site more aggressively to
the non-college educated women who embrace this lifestyle? I am aware of a number of women desiring no kids on other dating sites who should be posting here.
IdoNOTwantKids reply: As for your question, "Is it possible to promote this site more aggressively to the non-college educated women who embrace this lifestyle?" the simple answer is:
THIS SITE IS 100% FREE. THERE IS "NO" ADVERTISING BUDGET AVAILABLE. THIS SITE ACTUALLY COSTS ME MONEY TO RUN. However, because I simply could NOT find anyplace to find single people on the planet who do NOT have or want kids, I decided to create www.IdoNOTwantKids.com myself -- which is particularly odd since computers are only a hobby for me. Therefore, to answer your question, PLEASE DO SPREAD THE WORD ABOUT www.IdoNOTwantKids.com and promote the site to ANYBODY & EVERYBODY you want... That is the only way available to promote the site (i.e. word of mouth).
Added: March 22, 2014
Submitted by
Name: paul
Subject: Who has viewed me
Name: paul
Subject: Who has viewed me
Comments:
Why is it that I have so many number of views of my profile,when I go to see who they are there is nothing there?Can anybody answer this ?
IdoNOTwantKids reply: Simply click on the left side of the screen where it says, "Who Has Viewed Me." Then it will show you exactly who viewed you. You likewise can then view their profiles.
Why is it that I have so many number of views of my profile,when I go to see who they are there is nothing there?Can anybody answer this ?
IdoNOTwantKids reply: Simply click on the left side of the screen where it says, "Who Has Viewed Me." Then it will show you exactly who viewed you. You likewise can then view their profiles.
Added: March 17, 2014
Comments:
Ahhmmm... WHAT HAPPENED HERE...!?
I have to apologize for not logging-in more frequently.
Sad fact of the matter IS...there are multiple reasons for my infrequent visits.
There seem to be FEW folks Genuinely interested in the 'no kids' meme, thus the site rarely changes or gathers new members.
I WOULD visit when new messages arrive, but the (former..?) "Message Notification" feature doesn't work. I always seem to arrive just AFTER some new member sent me an email, received NO reply, and then quickly deleted their profile. This is slightly disappointing, but I don't lose much sleep over it. If / when some new member gets So EASILY discouraged as to delete their profile, either within days of signing-up, OR because they felt slighted at not receiving an email reply within 24 hours...oh, well.
The home page seems to have changed...dramatically, and for the worse. Many links seem to have disappeared from the left-hand menu.
WHERE did the "Super-Duper Member Search" disappear to...!?!?
Without the ability to search for "locals", or at least those members residing in my home state... the site is pretty much useless now.
IdoNOTwantKids reply: Hi Brad,
Thanks for your feedback. Yup, I changed the graphics. I was receiving LOTS of complaints about how the graphics looked so I changed them. Now I receive lots of complaints that the old graphics were better. Hence, I now have a standing offer to the planet: If somebody can make better graphics/improvements to the site, then PLEASE do so. I even had the site randomly display different graphic themes to try and make everybody happy but I received complaints about that also since people were getting confused.
As for the "Super Duper Member Search." Yup, that is a GREAT feature and absolutely positively still on the site. It is on the left side of the screen AFTER you log in.
Thanks again for your feedback though. Much appreciated. I never would have known that you didn't see the 'super duper member search' had you not told me.
Ahhmmm... WHAT HAPPENED HERE...!?
I have to apologize for not logging-in more frequently.
Sad fact of the matter IS...there are multiple reasons for my infrequent visits.
There seem to be FEW folks Genuinely interested in the 'no kids' meme, thus the site rarely changes or gathers new members.
I WOULD visit when new messages arrive, but the (former..?) "Message Notification" feature doesn't work. I always seem to arrive just AFTER some new member sent me an email, received NO reply, and then quickly deleted their profile. This is slightly disappointing, but I don't lose much sleep over it. If / when some new member gets So EASILY discouraged as to delete their profile, either within days of signing-up, OR because they felt slighted at not receiving an email reply within 24 hours...oh, well.
The home page seems to have changed...dramatically, and for the worse. Many links seem to have disappeared from the left-hand menu.
WHERE did the "Super-Duper Member Search" disappear to...!?!?
Without the ability to search for "locals", or at least those members residing in my home state... the site is pretty much useless now.
IdoNOTwantKids reply: Hi Brad,
Thanks for your feedback. Yup, I changed the graphics. I was receiving LOTS of complaints about how the graphics looked so I changed them. Now I receive lots of complaints that the old graphics were better. Hence, I now have a standing offer to the planet: If somebody can make better graphics/improvements to the site, then PLEASE do so. I even had the site randomly display different graphic themes to try and make everybody happy but I received complaints about that also since people were getting confused.
As for the "Super Duper Member Search." Yup, that is a GREAT feature and absolutely positively still on the site. It is on the left side of the screen AFTER you log in.
Thanks again for your feedback though. Much appreciated. I never would have known that you didn't see the 'super duper member search' had you not told me.
Added: March 9, 2014
Submitted by
Name: Randall
Subject: I love you man!!
Name: Randall
Subject: I love you man!!
Comments:
I always suspected there must be some others guys out there like me. Then I stumbled across Do Not Date Me! We think so much alike its scary! We're on almost exactly the same wavelength. Over the years I have waffled on the splitting of all expenses (although, I shouldn't have). Admittedly, the "no kids, ever" thing has posed the biggest stumbling block in my experience. You'd think some women might actually enjoy getting 100% of a really great guy's attention and not having to share him with kids. I'm 42 years old, and good grief the stories I could tell! The women in my past ALWAYS (no exceptions) wanted something beyond love, affection, emotional support, commitment, companionship......and all the other crap they like to claim they're looking for! What they wanted always fell into the following categories: 1. money (additional income and/or large lump sum "displays of affection" or 2. a sperm donor (which obviously came along with #1 above) To date, I've yet to meet a woman that honestly just wanted to get involved with a man that would make a fantastic companion. There has always been ulterior motives.
I always suspected there must be some others guys out there like me. Then I stumbled across Do Not Date Me! We think so much alike its scary! We're on almost exactly the same wavelength. Over the years I have waffled on the splitting of all expenses (although, I shouldn't have). Admittedly, the "no kids, ever" thing has posed the biggest stumbling block in my experience. You'd think some women might actually enjoy getting 100% of a really great guy's attention and not having to share him with kids. I'm 42 years old, and good grief the stories I could tell! The women in my past ALWAYS (no exceptions) wanted something beyond love, affection, emotional support, commitment, companionship......and all the other crap they like to claim they're looking for! What they wanted always fell into the following categories: 1. money (additional income and/or large lump sum "displays of affection" or 2. a sperm donor (which obviously came along with #1 above) To date, I've yet to meet a woman that honestly just wanted to get involved with a man that would make a fantastic companion. There has always been ulterior motives.
Added: February 11, 2014
Submitted by
Name: Former User
Subject: I don't like the site
Name: Former User
Subject: I don't like the site
Comments:
I am uncomfortable with the tone of the site. Many of the edicts and questions seem unnecessarily aggressive. I have a feeling it may put off prospective female members.
IdoNOTwantKids reply: As an attorney and somebody that has communicated with thousands of people around the globe about relationships, I believe the 3 biggest causes of divorce are: kids, money and sex. Hence, that is why these issues are specifically addressed.
I realize some people may dislike this approach. Nonetheless, there are tons of other 'fluff' dating sites online. I prefer that www.IdoNOTwantKids.com be unique and really address the important issues. After all, anybody can meet for a date. But if you aren't going to agree on the serious issues such as sex, money, and kids, why waste your time. I'd personally prefer to know this stuff upfront. Furthermore, via the utilization of this site, the important issues are addressed without the parties feeling uncomfortable about if/when to raise them -- which inevitably will have to be raised sooner or later in the relationship anyway.
I am uncomfortable with the tone of the site. Many of the edicts and questions seem unnecessarily aggressive. I have a feeling it may put off prospective female members.
IdoNOTwantKids reply: As an attorney and somebody that has communicated with thousands of people around the globe about relationships, I believe the 3 biggest causes of divorce are: kids, money and sex. Hence, that is why these issues are specifically addressed.
I realize some people may dislike this approach. Nonetheless, there are tons of other 'fluff' dating sites online. I prefer that www.IdoNOTwantKids.com be unique and really address the important issues. After all, anybody can meet for a date. But if you aren't going to agree on the serious issues such as sex, money, and kids, why waste your time. I'd personally prefer to know this stuff upfront. Furthermore, via the utilization of this site, the important issues are addressed without the parties feeling uncomfortable about if/when to raise them -- which inevitably will have to be raised sooner or later in the relationship anyway.
Added: February 6, 2014
Submitted by
Name: Courtney
Subject: photos
Name: Courtney
Subject: photos
Comments:
I just joined the site. There aren't to many people in my area but who knows. If you don't try something you will never know. I wish it would allow more than one photo on your profile. It would also be nice to put an age range question in the profile that way people would know how far older or younger a person would be willing to date. 10 years older than me is a little to much for me.
IdoNOTwantKids reply: I like your attitude. Too bad more people don't create profiles and just leave them online. I see new profiles created every single day on www.IdoNOTwantKids.com, but then the person looks around and doesn't see a match/lots of profiles, and immediately removes their profile. What a shame. True Story: I saw a guy post their profile but almost immediately thereafter deleted it when they didn't find a match. Ironically, the same day, a cute female from the same town created a profile. They would have been a perfect match but the guy foolishly deleted his profile and the rest is history.
As for the photos... yes.. originally when I created www.IdoNOTwantKids.com I did allow a number of photos. However, I quickly discovered that lots of people would post bogus/BS photos so it was really just a waste of time/space. Because www.IdoNOTwantKids.com now only allows one single photo, it makes it extremely easy to spot/remove fake profiles/BS photos.
I just joined the site. There aren't to many people in my area but who knows. If you don't try something you will never know. I wish it would allow more than one photo on your profile. It would also be nice to put an age range question in the profile that way people would know how far older or younger a person would be willing to date. 10 years older than me is a little to much for me.
IdoNOTwantKids reply: I like your attitude.
Too bad more people don't create profiles and just leave them online. I see new profiles created every single day on www.IdoNOTwantKids.com, but then the person looks around and doesn't see a match/lots of profiles, and immediately removes their profile. What a shame. True Story: I saw a guy post their profile but almost immediately thereafter deleted it when they didn't find a match. Ironically, the same day, a cute female from the same town created a profile. They would have been a perfect match but the guy foolishly deleted his profile and the rest is history.As for the photos... yes.. originally when I created www.IdoNOTwantKids.com I did allow a number of photos. However, I quickly discovered that lots of people would post bogus/BS photos so it was really just a waste of time/space. Because www.IdoNOTwantKids.com now only allows one single photo, it makes it extremely easy to spot/remove fake profiles/BS photos.
Added: January 14, 2014
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Name: Dave
Subject: Is this site SLOWER THAN SNOT or is it me?
Takes forever to open the boxed window or save profile updates or view a profile, what gives? Is this being run off a desktop in some kid's bedroom?
Another thing: The video games.... some of them are severely retarded. The TRUTH is that guys want trouble-free, minimal baggage females mostly for sex and having junior wakeup at 3am just when momma's cumming is no thrill, plus single momma's literally try to get us to behave like trained mice in bed so the brat can't hear it.
However, all of us were BRATS once too, so having a game where I have to PUNCH A BABY is very fucked up! No, it's extremely FUCKED UP and hypocritical on the part of the dickhead who started the site on his desktop, hoping to get laid.